Your Save the Dates usually go out 6 – 12 months before your day but if it is a destination wedding more time is better. Send invitations 6-8 weeks beforehand, with an R.S.V.P. request 2-3 weeks prior to the event so you can get a final head count.
Make sure all pertinent information is included. The names of the couple getting married, the date along with a note “Invitation to follow.” You don’t need to name the venue, but if you have a website, save-the-dates are a great place to share the URL.
Wedding invitations should include the full names of the couple marrying and those of the hosts (if they’re different), the place and time, and that’s it. “No children” isn’t included on the invite; it’s implied by the names on the envelope. Nor should you list registry information on the invitation—family and attendants can spread the word when asked about it, or you can provide it on your website.
“Street,” “Post Office Box,” and “Apartment” should all be written in full. The same is true for city and state names and house numbers smaller than 20. “Mr. and Mrs.” generally are abbreviated.
Your guests’ entire names should be written on the outer envelopes. Address married couples as “Mr. and Mrs.,” followed by the husband’s first and last name. It’s also fine to list both full names. When a woman keeps her maiden name, the names are written in alphabetical order: Ms. Susan Jones and Mr. John Smith. For an unmarried couple who live together, write the names on two lines. Some invitation suites have inner and outer envelopes. The inner envelope would have just the guests’ names, the outer envelope will have the guests’ names plus the address.
If the wife is a doctor, her full name comes first, as in “Doctor Aharon and Mr. Gary Lawrence.” When the husband is a doctor, the titles appear as “Doctor and Mrs.” and if both husband and wife are doctors, the envelope should say “Drs. Sharon and Gary Lawrence.” A single woman (unless she’s a doctor) should be addressed as “Ms.” If she’s under 21, use “Miss.”
Thank-you notes should be treated with a sense of urgency. Send them within two weeks of receiving the present to express your true appreciation.
All the best,